Driving and Aging: When to Hand Over the Keys

Giving up driving is one of the hardest decisions many older adults face. Driving represents independence, freedom, and the ability to stay socially connected. But at some point, safety may need to take priority. There’s no exact age when someone should stop driving, and the right decision often depends on a mix of medical, cognitive, and physical factors. This guide walks through how seniors and their families can evaluate driving ability and find ways to stay mobile without a car.

Prepare for the Possibility

Just like setting up a will or power of attorney, it’s a good idea to talk with your family and decide on clear signs for when it might be time to stop driving. Have this discussion before any problems come up. That way, you can all agree on what signs to look for and avoid tough decisions later when emotions might be running high.

In addition to having a clear plan for when it’s time to give up the keys, be sure to also plan for other alternatives so you still have transportation (and independence!). Keep reading for transportation options.

Warning Signs That It Might Be Time to Stop Driving

Signs that driving may no longer be safe include:

• frequent close calls or accidents 
• getting lost on familiar routes
• confusion between the gas and brake pedals
• delayed responses to traffic signals
• increased anxiety or frustration while driving

Family and friends may also notice dents on the car, receive complaints from others, or a reluctance to drive at night or in unfamiliar areas. These signs are often gradual, and it’s important to pay attention to changes over time. 

What the DMV Can Tell You

The Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) in many states has specific rules or guidance for older drivers. For example, some states require drivers over a certain age—often between 70 and 80—to renew their license in person, rather than online. They may also require vision tests, written exams, or even road tests. State requirements vary, so it’s worth checking with your local DMV or visiting NHTSA’s Senior Driving site for resources.

How to Get Evaluated

If you’re noticing warning signs in the driver, it’s a good idea to start with a conversation. Ask if they’ve noticed any challenges. Sometimes, seniors already feel less confident and are open to cutting back. 

A medical check-up can also help rule out reversible issues such as medication side effects, vision changes that can be helped, or early-stage illness. 

You can schedule a formal driving evaluation through AAA. As the AAA site says, “Think about getting a professional driving assessment the same way you look at visiting your doctor for annual wellness checkups – as a smart way to identify and manage any physical or mental changes.”

Before a complete stop on driving is needed, consider setting limits instead of stopping completely: only drive during daylight, avoid highways or bad weather, or stick to familiar routes. This gives the driver some control while reducing risk.

Planning for Life After Driving

Losing the ability to drive doesn’t have to mean losing independence. It just means using new ways of getting around. Having these options in place and even using them before you have to can minimize frustration and make the transition a little easier. 

Here are some practical options:

• Uber Assist – is designed for seniors and people with disabilities. Drivers are trained to offer additional assistance, such as helping passengers in and out of the car.
• Uber Phone booking:  Rides can be booked over a smartphone by calling in. It is the same Uber service, just done outside of the app. 
• Lyft Silver: A simpler version of the Lyft app designed for seniors who do not need help in and out of the vehicle. 
• GoGoGrandparent: a third-party service that works with both Uber and Lyft to help seniors and disabled people access rides (and other services) using a landline or basic phone
• Volunteer Driving Programs: Nonprofits and faith-based groups often have volunteers who provide rides to medical appointments, grocery stores, or social activities.
• Community Shuttles: Senior centers, local governments, or housing developments may provide scheduled shuttle services.
• Family and Friends: Create a shared driving calendar or set up a routine with loved ones for rides.

You might also consider delivery services for groceries and medications, or telehealth appointments to reduce the need for transportation. 

The decision to stop driving is rarely easy, but it doesn’t have to mean giving up independence. With a thoughtful plan and familiar transportation options in place, the transition can feel manageable—just like any other life change. If you’re helping a loved one navigate this step, offer support through compassion, clear information, and practical solutions.